by Marya Ruth Dunning
The University of Wisconsin at Milwaukee’s LGBTQ+ Resource Center recently posted an Instagram infographic regarding one of the “hidden gems” of polyamory: “petamours.”
The post defines “petamours” as “a pet you get to enjoy due to being part of a polyamorous relationship or polycule.” The term is a portmanteau of the words “metamour,” which the Polyamory Dictionary defines as “[someone] that your romantic partner is in such a relationship with, but you are not,” and pet.
The post distinguishes between the terms “polyamorous relationship” and “polycule,” defining the former as “a relationship where at least [one] person is consensually involved with more than one partner” and the latter as “a label to describe all people connected in or by” a relationship in which more than two people are involved.
“Along with bonding with your [metamours], you get to meet and love their pets, too,” the infographic continues. “Petamours can also be a way to see if pet ownership is right for you. You also might bond with a new type of pet and fall in love!”
A “downside” of petamours, the infographic concludes, is the grief of losing a pet when a relationship ends.
“When you create a strong bond with a pet, it can be hard to lose that connection. Depending on the situation, you might even miss your petamour more than your ex-partner or [metamours].”
This is not the first time that Campus Reform has reported on institutes of higher education promoting polyamory.
In 2017, Campus Reform reported that the University of North Florida planned to host a workshop titled “Polyamory vs. Cheating: Lessons from a Former Serial Monogamist” as a part of its annual “Sex Week.”
The university described the event as providing “outreach, education, and support for those involved in or seeking relationships with non-traditional structures.” The event framed polyamory “as an alternative to cheating” and was designed for students who identified as “poly-curious.”
The school later canceled this workshop along with several others, including one titled “Love Without Limits.”
“[We] were concerned that the issues of consent, safety, and healthy relationships were being lost in the week’s activities,” a spokesperson for the school stated, citing the apparent original purpose of the school’s Sex Week. The school also reassured Campus Reform that “no taxpayer money, tuition, or student fees” were used for the purposes of the event.
Campus Reform has reached out to all individuals and groups mentioned for comment and will update accordingly.
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Marya Ruth Dunning is a sophomore at Virginia Tech in Blacksburg, Virginia and is double-majoring in criminology and psychology with a minor in Spanish. She is currently a Program Coordinator for Impact, a data analytics-based living-learning community, as well as being active in Turning Point USA, Network of Enlightened Women, Students for Life, and The Podcast Crew. Marya is passionate about freedom of speech, supporting law enforcement, combating grooming and gender ideology, fighting socialism and communism, and standing for the unborn.
Photo “University of Wisconsin Milwaukee Students” by University of Wisconsin Milwaukee.
Wonderful, and these kids on graduation are essentially unemployable. They blame the university, blame the college for their not being job ready, then want (expect) the public to pay the student loans. (Loans are not forgiven, the debt is assigned to others.) The university is also at fault for dumbing down the curriculum to under performing under prepared students. The taxpayers of Wisconsin are not getting any return on their investment.